College

Long weekend at home

Long weekend at home
September 12, 2010
College

What does learning mean: accumulating knowledge or transforming your life? Paulo Coelho Our son came home for the long weekend after his first week ever away from home. The adjustments he is making do not appear to be more difficult than those of his fellow students. Everyone seems to be adjusting in different ways, different changes. He is as always friends with everyone, enjoying the company of other freshmen as well as that of upperclassmen. I imagine it is not a comfortable situation, and some aspects must be very hard for him but nonetheless, he is thriving and growing. I could not be prouder of him. I was not prepared however for the shock of his homecoming. The week had been long, with a heat index above 100 and my daughter sick. I felt the loss, the void he left in our days but it seemed easier than I had …Read more

Yum… doughnuts…

Yum… doughnuts…
September 12, 2010
College

Three of four in our family have allergies to gluten. It has not always been easy. We started our gluten-free journey in 1998, when our son’s allergies were diagnosed and the removal of wheat cleared persistent symptoms in a matter of weeks. At the time the choices of gluten-free products were slim and not all that tasty either.  We went through a period of baking everything from scratch with several different flours and now with the new mixes and flours available to us we can bake just about anything and know we will love it! With our son home, we decided to make doughnuts!  We use Pamela’s baking and pancake mix withe the recipe on their website.  We loved them and packed a few for “college snacks”.  I think he eats more maybe better now!  The cafeteria was the big surprise of the little college.  We had already planned on …Read more

Semi-empty nest

August 30, 2010
College

Respect the child. Wait and see the new product of Nature. Nature loves analogies, but not repetitions. Respect the child. Be not too much his parent. Trespass not on his solitude. Ralph Waldo Emerson The first weekend of our semi-empty nest… Getting up alone the first day was so sad, he set the routine, the rhythm for the morning.  It was also a chance for some solitary time to reflect  on all the conflicting emotions running through me.  There is loss; sadness; joy; and satisfaction of a “job” accomplished…  And I am only scratching the surface. As a perfectionist, I constantly see how I can improve whatever I do.  As a parent I would see every missed opportunity, felt I needed to spend more time with both my children, a lot of self-reprimand. Today I see just how much time I spent with him, with them both. I see it …Read more

Off to college

Off to college
August 27, 2010
At school

Whenever we release our need to be right about everything as parents, we are able to meet our children in a relationship of mutuality and respect. Arjuna Ardagh Today’s the day and he is off on his new adventure. It all felt so right, there was no room for tears though I imagined they will come as we try to find a new routine and start organizing the new school year. He was smiling and nervous when we said goodbye but I felt he had found his space. He is going to enjoy the very limited responsibilities and concentrate on his studies and more importantly his life, himself, discovering and exploring. He called and sounded great. It is a small group of kids all sharing a common interest and he seems anxious to start classes on Monday. I hope they will be challenging enough or that in the other case …Read more